One of the roots from which many branches have grown is that I haven't been putting my whole self in to a number of areas of my life. Two that readily show up are my relationships with Him and with my work. The latter is harder to notice right away because of how focused and productive I've been. Clearly, that increased effectiveness is a blessing, not only to myself, but also to those I serve. It's the spiritual aspect of my work that's been under some neglect—not in the sense of working for a church (though there's that), but rather the understanding any Christian must develop and maintain of his work as a gift received from God and given to others. There's nothing wrong with giving consideration to how my work is challenging me and enriching my life; it's just too narrow a view. There's a bigger picture, larger purposes, and until that's an integrated part of my perspective, I simply can't trust my internal instruments to evaluate where and how work is fitting in my life.
That bigger picture is, of course, informed by my relationship with God. There are so many ways I've been phoning it in, checking a faith box rather than exercising the muscles of faith. That's not about working to impress God or win His favor. Rather, it's about actively participating and abiding in a relationship, and anyone who believes he can successfully be in a relationship without work by just sitting there is deluding himself and doing everyone a disservice.
Awakened hearts, like awakened people, can be sensitive. Threaded through these two realizations is the conviction that the way I often see and interact with others, frankly, sucks. I'm condescending and judgmental, and under that I'm envious and insecure. That's not an "always" thing, and it doesn't wrap up neatly with a bow on top, but it's there and it's been there for most of my life, wreaking havoc (tangent: is havoc the only thing that's ever wreaked?) on both my relationships and my outlook. Ultimately, much of it is an outworking of finding my identity in my own abilities rather than in Christ—I don't see people and the world as He sees them, and I look for security in establishing myself in a better place than others (which always fails, sooner or later, and makes the problem that much worse).
Stepping back from where I've been will likely involve a lot more quiet on my part. I blame people for not thinking like I do, but that's not a sin. If the way God's wired me sometimes means that I'm in a different place than others can be in that moment, impatience isn't a good fix. Is it enough to be still and be with Him in those times? Will I trust Him not to abandon me? Is there room for Him to correct me and give me a greater appreciation of what He's working in and through the people around me? Does He love me enough that I don't have to be right in the eyes of others, or even in my own?
God doesn't have any shortage of appropriate tools to make His children look more and more like Christ. As I'd heard from so many others before I married, He uses marriage in unique and powerful ways in the lives of those who marry. Hard? Painful? Can be, without a doubt. But it's a relationship that reflects and reveals so much of who Christ is with His Church, and the things that can hurt are often the result of gripping too tightly on what we must release. If God is trying to take something away, the very best thing I can do is let Him do that. He's made me to embrace other things, and I'm very thankful for both the means and the end.