The past week's social calendar, however, was time well spent. Monday's dinner with the Denneys was a lot of fun despite the heat (they have a third floor apartment in a building with no air conditioning and poor circulation). I love the feeling of building something intentional with new friendships, as well as sharing lots of laughter. barlow_girl and I enjoyed our now-regular Tuesday dinner night where she cooked another fantastic meal (with enough leftovers for me to have dinner Wednesday, too). Community Group was Thursday, and last night we went to Bainbridge Island for dinner with my last boss and his family. Their hospitality was exceptional, their kids were adorable, the food was delicious, and reconnecting was welcome, though a tiny bit strained. Time passes, and sometimes we carry our wounds in unexpected, unexamined places. That said, I think it's important to have friendships where everything isn't easy and there aren't clear utilitarian reasons for holding onto them.
The larger picture we're seeing is the importance of intentionality—what it means to be a good steward of the time relationships with which God has blessed us. Who will be our closest friends, and how will we pursue them? Who needs someone to come into their life, and how will we respond? Which friendships are better maintained with monthly or yearly contact to keep us all from being spread too thinly? There aren't necessarily clear or singular answers, but there are choices that need to be considered and made. God gives us the dignity of doing so—choosing is an expression of His image, and seeking His guidance in those choices is an expression of a right relationship with Him.