Growth
So where am I? It's not so much that I need to do or not do things (though I may); the big deal is where I'm placing myself. While there are, of course, consequences to my sin and disobedience, the real problem with it is that I'm simply getting in the way rather than remaining where He can best grow me. I regularly find myself lacking in qualities I know are pleasing to Him—rather than trying to "do them better," I need to instead see how I am impeding their growth, grounded in the knowledge that He is the one who will bring them to fruition.
God offers flourishing. That relieves so much pressure when I'm reminded of our respective places in that offer and begin to get out of His way and let Him do His work.
It's often shocking to realize that, ultimately, morality takes very much a second seat to our relationship with God.
While this sort of mentality can easilt be abused in a sort of i'm-ok-you're-ok mentality, that's simply a perversion, a twisting of our relationship with the Lord into a cafeteria-style pick and choose relationship.
Following a genuine relationship with God will, however, lead us to proper morality.
Much like the rest of Christianity, it's difficult and, at times, seeminly paradoxical. But so isn't the nature of how we all messed it up in the first place.