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Friends list trimming

See, I don't know how to do this stuff, except just to do it and hope it works out. Seems like everybody's doing it...

I've been overwhelmed on a few fronts lately. Among them, I've had way more friends listed on LJ than I can really keep up with reading or commenting on—I've tried default views and such, but they aren't helping. So I've done a massive cutback of a full third of my listed friends (from around 180 to around 120). And I may still add and subtract; I'm just trying this out.

If you've been removed, please don't take offense or feel like you have to do anything at all. I write relatively few protected posts, so you won't miss much if you still read. And I will probably still read many of your journals separately from my friends list, and may add some back (I'm new at this). If you'd like me to be more involved in your life than you think I will be without you on my daily list, please let me know that!

Thanks for understanding. There are many times I wish I didn't have limits, but that's the road to idolatry.

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still on list

*feels special* ;)
I know you're joking, but that's actually something I'm afraid of—the people behind the journals I cut from my list are just as special; I just don't have the bandwidth to keep up with all the journals. So you (and everyone else) are exactly as special as you were before.
I don't know how you can even keep up with 120! I have another friend who did this and went from like 200 to 50. And then there are those who have the max amount allowed, over 700. I guess it all boils down to the purpose of the friends list.
Honestly, I'm not sure I'm done—another reason why I don't want being on my friends list to be something that anyone uses to measure their worth. I haven't done the best job keeping up and I'd like to do better at being present within limits (both here and in my daily life).
Seconded from above. 120 is amazing as it is.
As I responded to gracegiver, I don't think I've done such a great job of really being present, and I'm not sure one cut is going to do the job, either. There are so many special people that it's tougher than I would have thought, but acknowledging that I have limits always is.
You can keep up with 120?!?!
I'm not sure I can do that, either. I'm taking baby steps...
i was kinda surprised to see i'm still there. i must say interesting things every once in a while :)

thanks for letting me share a small part of your life.
i must say interesting things every once in a while :)

You do, and so do lots of the journals I unsubscribed from (it's more accurate to consider it unsubscribing from journals than cutting friends, because hopefully my relationship with people hasn't changed). It was just a matter of bandwidth, and realizing that I'm still at a huge number, it may not be the end of it.

Thanks for being you!
Lee, I totally understand what you're saying! I just cut mine and didn't even have a fourth of your number!

Feel free to let this old woman go if you need to cut more, hon! That is if you're no longer interested in ancient history. :D

no worries

I might have been cut for a long time. I don't worry if I'm not on a list as I read yours because of your insights as a Christian. I expect no readers at all as my journal is partly for my own benefit. I write to record my personal life moments, bot to make people clog their friends page. Blessings to you. Don't need to reply, use your time wisely!

Be God's
Christianlady

Re: no worries

ditto; i will however keep you on my friends list because of the balance in perspective you give me on my friends' list...


peace,
agy
Dude, we hardly know each other. I've enjoyed reading your posts, but obviously it's hard for us to communicate. Take care my brother! :D

God bless you!

your call. good bye if you wish it.

everyone doing it? I have never removed
anyone from my friends list except they
removed me(because being rather many I owe
my time to the ones who receive my journal)
I will be sorry to not have you therefore if
that is the way it is to be...I have some sense
of you as a person over the last couple of years
and...well but it is your call
+Seraphim

Re: your call. good bye if you wish it.

Ah, the "everyone" was three friends discussing and/or doing something with cutting back their friends lists today alone. Was enough for me to notice.

My list was just too big for me. I'd rather think of it as unsubscribing from journals than saying good-bye to friends. I'm sure I will continue to check in on many in their own forms rather than on my friends page. And I hope no one feels the need to unsubscribe from my journal unless that's what they already wanted to do. More than that, I hope that my friendships persevere whether or not I'm able to maintain a subscription to a given journal.

Thanks for your presence, Seraphim; the door is still open here, and I hope to drop by your place from time to time.

Re: dealing with a large number

I feel the same way :( I'm tempted to do a cut, I'm just not at the computer as much as I used to be.

(Anonymous)

You seem a decent man, I hate to kill you.


You seem a decent man... I hate to die.
Ugh. That's terrible to quote and forget to freaking log in.

Sorry.
That's cool :) I might have to do another cut soon too, getting overwhelmed.
There are many times I wish I didn't have limits, but that's the road to idolatry.

Well said.
Wow, thanks for keeping me! :)
Heck, I just have you as a friend b/c of the cool icons. ;o)

ha ha ha!!! j/k
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